Did you know that women’s interest in a sexual partner drops dramatically over 90 months, while a male’s interest holds steady?
There’s no denying boredom in the bedroom is the main factor that results in divorce, breakup, infidelity or another action that can disrupt the health of a partnership.
But what about the single folk? While single people have more sex than married couples, single-sex life can also get pretty dull. After you swipe right and meet that hottie, there’s no guarantee he or she will rock your world.
Is bad sex your partner’s fault? Or do you need some new adventures under the sheets? Here are 8 tips to spice up your sex life.
1. Explore Your Fantasies
When you touch yourself, what do you do? Watch some steamy adult videos or let your mind wander to unknown regions? There’s obviously something that’s arousing you when you’re doing the deed.
Maybe the main reason you’re not satisfied in bed is that you’re not exploring your fantasies.
Don’t be ashamed about your sexual fantasies. Everyone has them. Sexual fantasies heighten your sex drive, influences the way you interact with your partner, and can even help make you feel sexier.
Next time you’re in bed, talk to your partner about your fantasies. State you wish to achieve them. Keep in mind, you should only achieve your fantasies with the consent of your partner.
2. Learn New Positions
Which sex position do you use the most frequently? Probably missionary, right?
Missionary is one of the most common sexual positions. It’s comfortable for both partners and offers pleasure for both. But, let’s face it, missionary can get pretty dull.
There are many sex positions out there. Switching around positions is the easiest way to keep sex interesting.
There are always classic positions, such as doggy-style and cowgirl. There are also some that are unheard of. Examples, including Amazon Position, Dancer Position, See Saw Position, and Acrobat Position.
3. Touch Yourself
Sure, you’re having sex with someone else because you want them to touch you.
Why would you touch yourself when you’re in bed with your partner? This one simple act can improve your sex life tenfold.
For example, did you know a man craves watching a woman touch herself? Did you know touching yourself first avoids the awkward “no, touch here” or, “do it like this” discourse?
You don’t have to touch yourself the whole time. Just enough to fluff yourself up and get ready for the fun that lies ahead.
4. Becoming More Dominating or Submissive
In typical BDSM culture, a person is either dominant or submissive.
But even if you’re not playing with whips and chains, a person tends to take on the dominant or submissive role automatically. Take yourself out of your comfort zone and take on the opposite role.
We’re not saying subs should use crazy bondage on their partner or doms should become slaves. Start off slow. For example, if you take charge in bed, lay back and let your partner have fun.
5. Change Up the Scenery
Most couples have sex in bed. We’re not saying it’s a bad thing — that’s “where the magic happens” right? But doing the dirty in the bed can get pretty stale.
So, where do you have sex? Start with other rooms. Get in the bathroom and have sex in the shower. Use the living room couch. Bend your partner over the kitchen counter. You can even use the floor.
If you want to take it a step further, public sex is always an option! Hit up the movie theater, a park, or wherever else you can discreetly be naughty.
Are you a traveler? Make it a point to travel to a different country, such as Japan, and have plenty of sex in an exotic country!
6. Use Sex Toys
Did you know between 10 and 15% of women never climax at all? If she’s the one who’s unsatisfied, bring some sex toys into the picture.
Sex toys can help you discover areas of pleasure you never knew existed. Or, they simplify amplify pleasure. If you’re a guy and your partner is a girl, use her sex toys to pleasure her.
Sex toys aren’t only limited to female pleasure. There are a variety of fleshlights for men. In addition, sex toys come in all variations. Examples include dual-ended vibrator and anal toys.
7. Do Roleplay
Remember how we discussed fantasies? A common way to express your fantasy is with roleplay. Roleplay encompasses acting out a fantasy, which includes dressing up in costumes, setting a different scene, and even writing dialogue.
Roleplay allows you to take sex outside of everyday life. Women can do traditional roleplay, such as a sexy nurse or sexy schoolgirl (or teacher). Fun roleplay ideas for men include a cop, a manager, handyman, student, and nanny.
Do you and your partner share a common love for specific movies, TV shows, or books? Act out sex scenes with some of the characters! MF examples include Batman and Poison Ivy or Jon Snow and Daenerys Targaryen.
8. Have a Threesome
Who doesn’t enjoy adding one more to the bedroom?
Threesomes are common fantasies for both men and women. You can do things you can’t do with only one person, discover your sexuality, and who doesn’t enjoy two people feeling up your body?
Here’s the million dollar question — how do you find the other partner? You can ask single friends if they’re interested. You can also hire an escort. If you decide to hire a professional, follow these tips to ensure you choose a trusted service.
Spice Up Your Sex Life Today!
Do you need to spice up your sex life? Whether you’re single or in a relationship, a dull sex life is never fun. From having sex in public to simply exploring your fantasies, there are many ways to improve your sex life.
When you use these tips, your partner will keep coming back for more. Use these tips to have the best sex of your life!
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